Have you ever found yourself stretched in multiple directions with the best of intentions to be high performing, to make a meaningful difference and to feel good in the process? In reality however, you find that your work suffers, you fail to make the impact and your energy level hovers close to zero.
Welcome to the club! Who hasn’t felt this way at one time or another? Many of us strive to have that perfect balance of productivity, fulfillment and well-being. We search for that optimum point where our work yields a valuable and satisfactory output, our life has meaning and we are healthy physically, mentally and emotionally. Continue reading “More performance. Less pressure.”
Your optimum potential is that sweet spot which lies at the intersection of effectiveness, fulfillment and well-being where work and life are integrated in a state of ease and balance. It’s a distinction based on our individual capacity, values, goals and willingness.
It doesn’t mean that situations are never challenging. Quite the opposite, it’s the understanding that challenges inspire us to hone our focus, develop more resources and cultivate our resilience.
Most of us never take the time to reflect on how we can best add value to the world. Instead we think about what kind of job we want. We many never ask ourselves what gives our lives meaning. Instead we think about efficiency. We may not equate the state of our health with our state of our mind. Instead we look for quick fixes to physical symptoms.
Continue reading “What’s Your Sweet Spot?”
Why do we do the things we do? Why do we react the way we do? According to Marshall Goldsmith, coach and best-selling author of Triggers: Creating Behavior That Lasts–Becoming the Person You Want to Be, it seems to all come down to the triggers in our environment. Triggers are any stimulus that impacts our behavior.
If we knew what was triggering us, how would that help our efforts towards behavior change? By identifying our triggers, we would create a space between the trigger and our response. In that space is our opportunity to choose a different response, to choose a new, more productive, more positive behavior.
That space to make a new choice is created with awareness.
Continue reading “What’s Triggering You?”
In the fast paced and dynamic nature of business, it can be a real challenge to stay focused and keep up. Our schedule and priorities are constantly changing as we scramble to stay nimble and ahead of the curve.
How do our emotional struggles, which can range from a nagging fear of rejection or failure, anxiousness over our to-do list or being upset over a colleague’s remarks, add to this challenge?
When emotions strike, we tend to do one of two things. We dismiss or bury thoughts and feelings associated with these struggles or we react to them as the absolute truth without any pause to reflect.
Continue reading “How to Stay Flexible at Work”
Are you a people pleaser? What is people pleasing? Is it helping others? If it was, wouldn’t that be called people helping not people pleasing?
To please is to give someone happiness or satisfaction. There is no helping in that definition. To help is to give assistance or support-not to deliver an outcome.
People pleasing is a focus on others’ expectations and trying to meet those expectations for the specific result of their happiness or satisfaction. It is a focus on the other person’s desires with the hidden payoff that by doing this, they will see us in a positive light.
This is where people pleasing backfires. If we don’t get the recognition or positive reflection that we are secretly seeking, we feel betrayed and angry. We may not acknowledge this at first, especially if we want to appear “pleasing” but eventually it will become obvious.
Continue reading “The People Pleasing Habit”
Authenticity is being true to who we are and not trying to imitate someone else.
When we walk our talk, others take note and listen. They trust us because we are consistent in our words and actions. Trust allows deeper, more rewarding and fruitful relationships. Whether you are leading yourself, teams of people at work, in your community or within your family, authenticity is a powerful influencer.
How do we know if we are authentic? How do we become authentic?
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Some of us believe that success (whatever that means to us individually) is a one-way journey. Forward. Is that really true? When a setback forces us to retreat and find a new way or to rethink our strategy – is that backwards movement also part of moving forward?
Every step of the way can be a cause for celebration, if we choose it to be. That includes failures as well as achievements. Sound counter-intuitive? How have we been conditioned to believe that forward movement is the only good movement? Why is going backwards so…bad?
Have we gotten stuck in the idea that forward means a straight line? Can forward mean a zig-zag or even circles? Is a general trend of direction just as significant as a direct route without detours?
Continue reading “Would You High Five A Setback?”