Don’t Take the Bait; Stop Verbal Aggression Before It Stops You.- Stay cool while helping others come to their sensesWe need each other at work, at home and in our community.Cultivating and maintaining good relationships is critical for our success and happiness. They are the source of rich opportunities, essential information and needed support.Solid relationships require good communication.…… Continue reading Don’t Take the Bait; Stop Verbal Aggression Before It Stops You.
Stop Cheating on Your Happy Future With an Anxious Mind-Stay faithful to your best self by putting anxiety in its place.Contrary to widespread practice, worrying about what might happen doesn’t give you one inch of control over what does happen.And yet, anxiety is on the rise.Last week the U.S. Preventive Services Task Force recommended that…… Continue reading Stop Cheating on Your Happy Future With an Anxious Mind
What Comes First, the Chicken or the Egg?- Do you need to succeed to feel good or feel good to succeed?Anthony says he’s doing an outstanding job as a manager at his company. However, instead of feeling good, he’s frustrated. Anthony doesn’t feel appreciated or get the opportunity for advancement he wants and believes he deserves. He’s angry, ready to…… Continue reading What Comes First, the Chicken or the Egg?
When You Hold Back, You Break Through to Authentic Success-Self-regulation is a powerful tool for getting what you really want.When my daughter was young, she had an English teacher who suggested the best way to write an A+-worthy essay was to allow the first draft to be the “sloppy copy.” The goal was to be free…… Continue reading When You Hold Back, You Break Through to Authentic Success
Get On Your Feet and Take The Road Less Traveled-Let enthusiasm and self-belief be your guides.You can’t wait for people to recognize your talent or desires. Being reserved doesn’t win you any points. It often gets you overlooked and creates frustration. On the other hand, shameless self-promotion is a turn-off. The sweet spot between the…… Continue reading Get On Your Feet and Take The Road Less Traveled
An Extraordinary Life is One That Suits You Head to Toe-An ordinary life fits other people.Most people would consider that astronaut Scott Kelly lives an extraordinary life. He commanded the International Space Station and set the record for the most accumulated number of days spent in space by an American astronaut.Scott said that aside from the incredible views and floating around,…… Continue reading An Extraordinary Life Is One That Suits You Head To Toe
-Learn to refocus your fear into something useful. I was scared, nauseous and anxiety-ridden. Tomorrow I would give my first presentation in my college public speaking class.When I first signed up for the course, I considered it a convenient option to fulfill a communications requirement for my business administration degree. Looking back, I had no idea how public speaking would affect my life.I…… Continue reading ANXIOUS ABOUT PUBLIC SPEAKING?
-How to lead change instead of forcing it.We can’t make anybody do what they don’t want to do. At least not for long. However, we can empower people to do what they already want to do. That is the art of leadership. Whether we lead others or lead ourselves to change, igniting desire is critical.A…… Continue reading Turn No Into Yes!
-Try not to criticize, condemn or complain. (reprinted from Authentic Success newsletter) Outstanding leadership is about getting other people to want to do what you want them to do. Failed leadership is forcing people to do what you want, which only works temporarily and superficially. Eventually, people will reject being forced, coerced or manipulated. To lead others for…… Continue reading How to Raise The Bar On Your People Skills
-Get clear on what aspects of a difficult situation bother you most. (reprint from Authentic Success newsletter) A simple definition of adversity is anything that is not the way we want it to be. Because we all have different desires for what makes a successful and happy life, adversity and resilience, look different for each one of…… Continue reading Master Adversity Like A Pro