What Are Your “Must Haves”?

If we are passionate about owning a luxury car, we would put a lot of thought into buying one. We would contemplate what really matters to us. We would define what is worth holding out for as we shop around.

Is it style? Power? Interior? How about eco-friendliness? Perhaps a combination? If a luxury car is important to us, we probably already have a clear idea of what we want. We might even have a list of “must haves” written down. Something we refer to often while visiting dealership after dealership, to ensure we are considering all the critical factors for our best decision.


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What’s Your Mindset?

Have you ever wondered HOW you wonder? In other words, have you paid attention to the way your mind processes information?

What impact do you think this has on your motivation, achievement levels and how you relate to others?

Carol Dweck is a Stanford psychologist and author of Mindset, a book about her research in the area of achievement and success. She discovered there are two types of mindsets, or established set of attitudes, from which people engage with the world and with themselves.


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Be Great or Be Right?

Which would you rather be?

For many of us, there is some area of our lives we are trying to improve. Or at least, wish we could improve. Whether it be getting to the next level in our careers, launching a new career, elevating our personal relationships, advancing our health or increasing the quality of our life.

For every desire for improvement, there are numerous methods, techniques and approaches to get us there. Most are probably valid with persistence. However, I believe successful change depends not only on sustained motivation but also on increased awareness.

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The Games We Play

Who do you compete against? Other people or yourself? Whatever your answer, how can you use this to help you achieve more of what you want?

For some, competing in business or sports is a thrilling game played with formidable opponents. It reflects a combination of strategy and skill. For others, competition is about being better today than they were yesterday. It’s still an exciting game but a solo one. No other players required.


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3 Questions to Challenge the Status Quo

The status quo, as it applies to our lives, is the result of our habits. Challenging the status quo is challenging our habitual ways of seeing and doing.

Why challenge the status quo? If this moment were completely satisfying, we wouldn’t even think of it. We’d be too busy enjoying how we have chosen to live. On the other hand, when the way we are living reaches a crises level we’d do anything to make radical changes in our habits. Continue reading 3 Questions to Challenge the Status Quo

What Does Respect Have To Do With It?

One of the changes I am making in my life is deepening respect for myself and others.

Respect is admiration or reverence for someone or something. I noticed some time ago that out of efficiency, I was semi-consciously breezing through tasks, conversations and decisions in order to “get to the good stuff” or what I assumed was of a higher priority.


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What Is Behind Our Desires?

Did you ever wonder what is behind your desire for more?

Not the quantity kind of more. The quality kind of more. The more we may find ourselves desiring with increasing awareness.

There is something within us, that at some point, will begin to discern what is worth focusing our attention on and what is not. Something that will start demanding we choose deeper, more lasting value over what is momentary and fleeting.

This is the moment to appreciate that aspect of ourselves. Or at least to wonder about it. Maybe for the first time.

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How To Disrupt A Habit

Think about it.

Seriously. If we want to change a habit, we must think about it. Become more aware of it. When is it triggered? What is the payoff we receive?

On the road to having more of what we want in our lives, we will encounter roadblocks. Lots of them. They will show up as our counterproductive habits.

We want better health and yet we still take the extra helping at mealtime, often without realizing. We want more happiness and yet we still yell obscenities when we get cut off in traffic, ratcheting up our stress levels. We want more connectedness yet we continue to distance ourselves from loved ones when they don’t meet our expectations.

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Want More? Choose More.

Having more in our lives is about choosing more.

Choosing more leads us to evaluate what actions it will take to realize our goals. It helps us look more clearly at what we want and decide what is worth our effort and what is not. It is a beautifully orchestrated system.

That takes us to our truth.


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Are you wired for negativity?

Research says yes.

Sorry, if you thought you were a positive person….

It’s called negativity bias. It’s sourced from a region of our brain that formed eons ago when when we roamed the Earth scanning for any sign of physical threat in order to survive. Turns out that in modern times, even though physical threats are not so severe, our brains have been molded by centuries of “threat alert” to find signs of danger even when there are none.

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