-Try not to criticize, condemn or complain. (reprinted from Authentic Success newsletter) Outstanding leadership is about getting other people to want to do what you want them to do. Failed leadership is forcing people to do what you want, which only works temporarily and superficially. Eventually, people will reject being forced, coerced or manipulated. To lead others for … Continue reading How to Raise The Bar On Your People Skills
-Gain cooperation with authenticity and a positive vision The leadership stakes are high right now for business leaders. Besides your regular business activities, you must address the uncertainty over the pandemic and political, social and economic turmoil. Today, I want to talk to you about the difference between leading with influence and control. Influence is about creating … Continue reading Lead With Influence, Not Control
-4 fundamental principles that will help you have better relationships in your career and life.2020 upended a lot of things for us. Social distancing resulted in remote work, different work or no work, restricted travel, recreation and freedom. A bitter divide over politics has separated us ideologically. However, one thing has not changed. Relationships are … Continue reading How To Manage Relationships for Success
"The price of greatness is responsibility." - Winston Churchill With the new year around the corner, you may be thinking about how you want things to be different. At the same time, you might remember how, in the past, you started off the new year with the best intentions only to lose steam by February. Have … Continue reading How to take flight in 2021
“Compassion is the keen awareness of the interdependence of all things.” Thomas Merton, American Trappist monk, There is a lot of talk about empathy recently and for a good reason. Everyone is going through difficult times in one way or another. It's comforting for people to know that leaders and managers are feeling the same pain. However, … Continue reading Connect with Empathy but Lead with Compassion
"The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing." –Socrates We live in a world where we praise those with knowledge, success and independence. The more you know, succeed and do it yourself, the more secure you are deemed to be. This perspective makes sense when so many of us struggle with the unknown, the … Continue reading Take the Lead with Humility
“Fighting the mind does not work. What works best is learning to focus it.”― W. Timothy Gallwey, The Inner Game of Tennis: The Classic Guide to the Mental Side of Peak Performance I believe my life, the lives of my loved ones, friends and clients will be better off due to the difficulties this year. I … Continue reading Rational Optimism in a Pessimistic World.
“Emotions are not reactions to the world; they are your constructions of the world.”― Lisa Feldman Barrett, author of How Emotions Are Made: The Secret Life of the BrainBarbara lost her job in the travel industry during the pandemic. She's looking for opportunities in other sectors that have more growth potential. Recently, Barbara interviewed for a … Continue reading How Emotions Impact Decisions
"Intention is the single most powerful and transformative ingredient in dialogue."-Oren Jay Sofer, author of "Say What You Mean, a Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication."Who doesn't feel uncomfortable sharing shortcomings to help another improve their performance? How many people like communicating their dislikes in a personal relationship? What if you could embrace a simple formula … Continue reading How To Positively Deliver Negative Feedback.
"Attention must be paid."-Linda Loman, character in the play Death of a Salesman (This is the last of a three-part newsletter on creating success and happiness.) (Read Part 1) (Read Part 2) Your attention is valuable. It's so precious that advertisers are willing to pay over $5 million for a 30-second advertising spot during the Super … Continue reading Harness Your Attention With Purpose. (Part 3)