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“Don’t carry your mistakes around. Instead place them under your feet to use as stepping stones.” – Unknown
The status quo, as it applies to our lives, is the result of our habits. Challenging the status quo is challenging our habitual way of seeing and doing.
Sounds crazy doesn’t it?
Even when we know we have a habit that is detrimental to our well-being and fulfillment-either physically or psychologically, we still don’t put the effort into changing it.
We might think about all the ways we act, think or speak that are destructive or less than constructive. We might complain to our friends about how we should change, but we never take the consistent action required.
Respect is admiration or reverence for someone or something. I noticed some time ago that out of efficiency, I was semi-consciously breezing through tasks, conversations and decisions in order to “get to the good stuff” or what I assumed was of a higher priority.
Think about it.
Seriously. If we want to change a habit, we must think about it. Become more aware of it. When does it happen? What's the payoff we receive?
Having more in our lives is about choosing more.
Choosing more leads us to evaluate what actions it will take to realize our goals. It helps us look more clearly at what we want and decide what is worth our effort and what is not. It is a beautifully orchestrated system.
What comes to mind when you hear the word responsibility? Is it positive or negative? Whatever our answer, we can recognize that our ideas about responsibility are nothing more than learned patterns of thought.
In other words...they're habits.
Failure is such a taboo word in our culture. But when we’re making changes in our lives, we're certain to fail as we try different strategies. The good news is every failure is a reason to celebrate! Why? Because it gives you a direct experience of what doesn’t work. It’s an excellent way to get clarity.