“Compassion is the keen awareness of the interdependence of all things.” Thomas Merton, American Trappist monk, There is a lot of talk about empathy recently and for a good reason. Everyone is going through difficult times in one way or another. It's comforting for people to know that leaders and managers are feeling the same pain. However, … Continue reading Connect with Empathy but Lead with Compassion
“Nothing can bring you happiness but yourself.”― Ralph Waldo EmersonAuthentic success and happiness are the results of who you are being while you live your life. As a coach, most people ask me, "What do I do to get what I want?" The better question to ask is, "Who do I have to be to get … Continue reading How To Be Happy With Yourself.
"Intention is the single most powerful and transformative ingredient in dialogue."-Oren Jay Sofer, author of "Say What You Mean, a Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication."Who doesn't feel uncomfortable sharing shortcomings to help another improve their performance? How many people like communicating their dislikes in a personal relationship? What if you could embrace a simple formula … Continue reading How To Positively Deliver Negative Feedback.
"Status quo, you know, is Latin for 'the mess we're in'."-Ronald Reagan, 40th American President What does it take to succeed? To achieve your goals? To create positive change that sticks?It requires the willingness and courage to shake things up. You also must endure the discomfort that comes from disrupting the status quo, that comfortable but unsatisfying state you currently … Continue reading Success Is Like Making An Omelet.
"Not always sunny, but always in a sunny state of mind."-Lilly Pulitzer, entrepreneur, fashion designer, American socialite (Read Part 1 here) To succeed and be happy, you must first define what these concepts mean to you. Differentiate your ideas from others. Make it personal. If you don't, uncertainty and vagueness will erode your motivation. However, even with crystal clear … Continue reading Success And Happiness; A State Of Mind, Not A Destination. (Part 2)
"I always like to look on the optimistic side of life, but I am realistic enough to know that life is a complex matter." -Walt DisneyWhat does success mean? If you ask ten people, you get ten different answers. How about happiness? Same thing. Success and happiness are ideas. Like all ideas, these definitions lie in the mind of the … Continue reading How to Realistically Succeed and Be Happy (Part 1)
"The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation." -Henry David Thoreau We are living in difficult times. The amount of change and challenge is overwhelming. The pandemic is upending our lives and livelihoods. People are in a cultural war with each other. The news and social media sensationalize the negative. The day to day … Continue reading It’s Time To Believe In Yourself Again.
True success is achieving what you want in a way that aligns with your Core Values
Portrait: US Army (USA) Brigadier General (BGEN) John H. StanfordWhat happens when we decide to be "all in"? Why does it feel good and why is it good for us? Recently, I had the good fortune to facilitate a board of directors retreat for a local chapter of a national charity. I was once again … Continue reading A Mindset of Commitment and Passion
Genuinely successful people measure themselves by what they can do – not what they have. Mindset is a set of attitudes and beliefs that govern all of our perceptions and behaviors. If we are not consciously shaping and molding our mindset, events and other people influence it without our discrimination. Are you willing to trust … Continue reading How to Be the Best Version of You